Some folks don’t realize we have a child with Asperger Syndrome,
and some folks like to hear how we raise a child who thinks outside the box.
So this post is an update on our sweet aspie child, Andrew!
Andrew is sensitive.
He is sensitive to all things sensory.
Sometimes things will agitate him such as bright lights, loud noises, texture of clothes, texture and flavor of food, and smells.
Sometimes these very same things he will delight in.
Basically, as long as he is not caught off guard he processes well.
Bright lights bother him; he has always enjoyed the dark. As a wee guy he loved lurking in dark spaces.
Here is a fun story called Ghost Hunter (before we knew that Andrew’s differentness actually had a label, so to speak)
Loud noises will trigger him to be more noisy than he already is. *smile* Vacuum cleaners trigger this one well.
Overall clothes, thankfully, are not near as big as an issue as it could be. Yes, for years we couldn’t get him to wear them, cept out in public of course. We approached this in segments. Ok Andrew, you are 4 so now you must leave your pants on during the day. Now you are 5 and you will need to stay dressed for the whole day. You get the idea. His newest clothing quirk is to suck on his shirt til it is soaked. Gentle reminders to keep his shirt out of his mouth is about all I can do. This too shall pass…
Food is always an issue.
He is king of the ‘beige’ diet. chips, crackers, cereal, mac-n-cheese, grilled cheese, chicken nuggets, etc…
Eggs is his newest favorite! I am still a bit amazed, after all, it is a bit of a strange texture, eh?
Mind you that he ONLY eats eggs that his DAD will cook. Yes, my eggs are dissed every time, lol.
Surprisingly, when we did our All About Apples lesson, his favorite apple flavor was Granny Smith!
So, developmentally (which includes emotionally, socially, and academically) Andrew seems to run about 2 yrs behind.
Well, I am pleased to say that this is the year that he is thriving!
He is 7, and now in 2nd grade.
This year alone he has….
~begun to read.
~learned to swim.
~learned to ride his bike.
A funny story of sorts. Dad comes home with a new bike for Andrew. Now mind you that Andrew has not had much experience on bikes cept the rare occasion of riding Bryson’s wee bike with training wheels. Well Dad took the training wheels off Andrew’s bike, and he was not too impressed with this whole idea. So Andrew being who he is, he made a deal with dad. With his best sigh ever he says “fine. If I learn to ride my bike, will you put my training wheels back on?” Took him 2 days to learn, and has never looked back!
~learned to play with a variety of different personalities and ages. This is a pretty big deal since he always preferred to play by himself for so long. He still needs his own space once in awhile, but usually only when he is getting overwhelmed about something. Basically he knows when to give himself a time ou, so to speak. It is ‘the thoughtful spot’ that I have mentioned before.
Some fabulous traits that Andrew has is his sense of right and wrong. If in doubt, he will always ask. He will never choose something naughty intentionally, thus if he does need to be corrected it has to be stated in a matter-of-fact way. His ability to lie is pretty non-existent. He will just state things as they are, even if it incriminates him. He will speak up if someone else is not honest. Not to get anyone in trouble, but because of an instilled sense of truth.
~learned to pray. This has been quite priceless. Whatever is on his heart is what is said. Daddy is always first in his prayer. Grandpa and Grandma are a quick 2nd. Me? not.so.much. lol.
This is what is working for Andrew academically.
Andrew finally was willing to do the lessons in How to Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons. (our 3rd attempt, *ahem*)
He successfully made it to lesson #54. At this point, the lessons were becoming longer and his attention span was not. *smile*
This is where I opted to chose the Phonetic Reader for his reading lessons now. He reads some, writes some, and learns some phonics and sight words at the same time. He is also writing letters to the people he loves! His handwriting is not a strong point so his willingness to do this is fabulous!
I also restarted Our Home Kindergarten with him and Bryson. Don’t let the ‘kinder’ part fool you. This is a progressive learning style that is not dummied down to todays standards. I find it beneficial in a math/science/creative thinking sort of way.
I have not put my finger on what official math program we will do. Probably Abeka Arithmetic 1 when I feel he is ready (which is soon). He has finally got a handle on numbers to 100 and beyond, skip counting by 10’s and 5’s, and has a basic understanding of how addition and subtraction works. We will probably work on telling time this month, then move on to his math workbook after that.
A goal Andrew has for this year is to learn to tie his shoes. I will keep you updated on this. =)
So, do you know anyone with Asperger’s?
Do you have and questions? Feel free to ask!